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1 What the f*^k do I do now? Dealing with the dreaded c-word. Change.

Managing the C-word. Change

Change. Dealing with the dreaded c-word and answering the question – What the fuck do I do now?

The c-word, change and the question, “what the fuck to I do now?” has been circulating in my head the last few days. And today, I’ve been thinking about my next steps, which is a state I am sure that everyone can relate to.
Recently, I found out that I need to move from where I live. Which is both a great and annoying thing. It’s great because I haven’t been entirely happy for a while, but convenience prevailed. It’s annoying because I’m not quite ready to move. I’ll be honest, finding a house can be a pain in the butt. It forces you to look at all the things in your life that need to be evaluated, which can be an uncomfortable activity if you’ve let things lie for a while, like I have.
It’s unsettling to receive unexpected news, even if it is for the highest good. Thinking about the next steps always bring up all sorts of questions. The most obvious being where to live, which for someone who is prone to wandering, a tricky question to answer. Where to find this new location called home, even if only temporarily.

Remember, you’re exactly where you need to be

The C-word…change

Change. How a 6-letter word can strike so much fear bewilders me. Change. Change can be good, fun, terrifying, nerve-wracking and also liberating. But change makes you look at your life through a microscope. For example, change requires you to look at your finances and getting an idea of what you can and can’t afford to do. And like most people, I’m not all that excited about keeping my financial house tidy. Which is ridiculous as money is essential and offers an element of freedom if you choose to accept it. Plus, keeping things organised allows greater accountability which leads to flow, and with flow comes abundance.

Yes, but what about all the other stuff in my life?

Then comes the age-old question, am I really happy in all aspects of my life? We have four main pillars in our lives – health, work/study/self-development, relationships and home, if one of those pillars is out of alignment then we struggle to find balance. And that imbalance will prevail until the pillar is brought back into balance. We’re only as strong and balanced as our weakest pillar, and finding out what needs to change or healed will help bring back that balance and strength. With balance and strength comes clarity and from clarity, answers to our questions.
Sometimes more than one pillar is out, which often is the case when we’re stressed, unhappy or unwell. Each pillar has an effect on the next. Not enjoying your job, this affects your relationships and consequently your health. Fear often drives our decisions, fear, for example, of quitting the job we dislike so much. Because without the job we can’t pay for our home unless we have support from our relationships – familial, or otherwise. But, money can be a cause of tension, especially if one person feels like they contribute more than the other. And so it continues around the pillars. Do you see the circle we so easily get caught up in? Amazing how everything is so interlinked.

So I’m out of balance, what do I do now?

All of this brings me back to the question I am currently asking myself. What the fuck do I do now? Well, honestly I don’t know, as the circumstances are different every time and for each person. What I do know is that finding the answer to situations require different approaches. Sometimes mediation or oracle cards work, other times it’s journaling or talking. Getting everything out of our heads is generally a good place to start. Fears get smaller, ideas bigger. Sometimes the more logical approach of the list of pros and cons of any decision works, but that requires options that you know are available.
But what if you don’t even know what the options are? Enter, the life recipe. In these moments I write a life recipe, a process that focuses me on what I absolutely have to have in my life, what’s negotiable and what I do not want. In fact, I’m doing one now with the question, what the fuck do I do now? Because quite frankly my options are vastly different from one another and I have no idea where to start other than with a recipe for the next chapter of my life.

Are you ready to make your life recipe?

Creating space for change

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and ideas. Gather momentum by focusing on what you do want in your life. Was wild and crazy as your ideas may sound. The best version of these wild ideas for you will appear care of your intention and the universe. The negotiable comes next, what would be great to have but non-essential, sometimes these ideas are the stepping stones to the must haves. And last, but certainly not least come the things that you’re not interested in having in your life, it’s good to be clear about what you’re not interested in moving towards, in all forms.

Once you’ve completed the three sections, leave the workbook for a few days. Let the ideas settle before reviewing your life recipe again, leave them to marinate in the back of your mind. After a few days, make some time and space to review the life recipe again. You might discover that you want to make some changes or tweak what you wrote, sometimes what sounds good one-day shifts to being not so cool the next.

Setting yourself up for success

Now, it’s action stations. Start planning your moves, to make things happen. Starting from the first few months, six and then nine months. Break down your ideas into smaller bite-size chunks, so they don’t seem so bloody scary. If however, your time scale is less than that you need to create timelines that reflect what time you have. From here it’s about support, ask your best friend or person who will hold you accountable to be present and hold the space for you to create this recipe. Report back to them, tick things off the list put a big fat line through the things you’ve done. Celebrate the steps you take, even if they’re sideways, backward, or diagonal. You’re exactly where you need to be.

Co-work and the best options for entrepreneurs when traveling

Co-work spaces, co-working holidays, co-living, and their benefits when traveling

How to efficiently balance your work and life when traveling.

Co-working for entrepreneurs

Travel planning with Wayfairer, the benefits of co-work spaces

Co-work offices, co-work holidays and co-living spaces are fast becoming the way to work when on the road. They are hubs of activity and interaction between digital nomads, entrepreneurs, and location independent travelers.

What are the benefits?

  • 71% of people feel more inspired and creative in co-work environments
  • 75% of travelers who work whilst traveling believe they’re more productive in co-working spaces
  • 80% say their business contacts and networks have expanded by 80% through co-working
  • 92% believe their social circles have increased, and with people who have similar ideologies about life and work
  • Many location independent freelancers, entrepreneurs, and digital nomads report up to 38% increase in their income due to greater productivity, business networking opportunities and improved confidence in their abilities to generate work opportunities
  • Work hours and flexibility are considered the greatest unpaid advantages for co-working
  • People who use co-working spaces feel that there are greater opportunities for collaborative work, problem-solving and working on projects they care and are passionate about
  • Due to the transient nature of co-workers, not many issues related to office politics and workplace culture come up
  • Co-work spaces help provide a community, daily structure, and routine in an unstructured environment.

“Live life on your terms. Be free. Work and live from wherever you want. It’s the location independent lifestyle. And it’s now more possible than ever” – Stuart Jones, Founder Coworkation

What options for working and travelling are available?

Co-Work offices:

  • Grab a desk, beanbag, deckchair, stool or bench and work in a creative environment.
  • Great for short term stays, growing your network, being in a dynamic environment.
  • Located in all major cities, they’re easy to find and offer access to office facilities, for example, meeting rooms.
  • Think Sydney (We Work), London (@ Work Hubs), Bangkok (The Hive), Barcelona (Talent Garden), Amsterdam (The Thinking Hut), and Tokyo (The Snack).

Co-Work holidays and vacations:

  • Be exotic and work from a number of breathtaking locations around the world. From flotillas to poolside retreats in Bali, Mallorca, and Costa Rica.
  • Workations are short holidays from 1 week to a month (or more) with other people from all over the world. Workations offer workshops, often included, breakfasts along with activities such as yoga, pilates, and surfing
  • Work holidays often have a focus with experts presenting workshops and opportunities to learn more about running your own business, for example, branding, email list building, and strategy.
  • Another benefit is that all the details are sorted out for you, as a result all you need to do is turn up, be creative and love what you do.
  • And finally, but not least importantly they give you the option to explore new places with like minded people and without the pressure of trying to find ideal work conditions to get those all important ‘to do lists’ done each day.
  • Check out: Remote Trotters, Co-Work the world and Remote Year for trips and information.

Co-Living:

  • This means sharing an apartment, house or another living space (for example, a boat) with other entrepreneurs.
  • Co-living can be broken into three different areas,
    • Urban co-living (living with other digital nomads in big cities such as New York),
    • Travel co-living, (go traveling with other digital nomads for 3, 6, 9 or 12 months to a variety of destinations around the world)
    • Destination co-living (move to a specific place to live and work, Bali is very popular!)
  • Each co-living space is different and prices are based on size, location, and length of stay.
  • Have a look at; Co-boat in addition to Hackers Paradise

Sound good? Bags packed? We have no excuses now! Why sit at home or in an office when so many places are waiting to be discovered by you. Who knows you might have the inspiration of a lifetime and have the most abundant year yet.  Line those goals up and make them a reality. See you on the road!

And finally, download my Life Recipe workbook for FREE and purchase a copy of my handbook 101 Ways to Earn Money Whilst Traveling.

SMART goals, are you creating your ideal life and business?

SMART goals, are you creating your ideal life & business?

Are you setting smart goals? Do you even know what smart goals are? Regardless of whether you do, or don’t read on!

SMART, an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.

Did you know that as much as  80% of people have no goals and definitely not smart goals? While 16% of people think about their goals, but don’t get them out of their head and onto paper. 4% of people actually write them down. And, amazingly, only 1% of people write them down, review them regularly, and, consequently achieve them. What does that make them? The 1% of people who create their ideal lives through their smart goals.

Creating a list of SMART goalsNow, let’s get started by defining what smart goals mean and how they’re broken into consumable segments.

S for SPECIFIC

Specific – A specific goal will usually answer five ‘W’ questions:

  • SmartGoalsWhat: What do I want to accomplish?
  • Why: Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal. Why do I want to do / achieve this?
  • Who: Who is involved? – your ideal audience, perfect clients, the people I want to work with?
  • Where: Identify a location. Where will I do this, do I a want to be a digital nomad or location independence?
  • Which: Identify requirements and constraints.

Are your goals physical objects that are tangible or are they ambiguous? Many people lose motivation because of unclear goals and consequently they give up too early or just before things start to really take off. The key to success? Make each goal SPECIFIC. Start with my Life Recipe workbook and get those smart goals or at least ideas on paper.

M for MEASURABLE

Measurable – To achieve success, goals need to be measured. If you’re deciding between being a digital nomad and location independence you should ask yourself:

  • How much? – do I want to earn, a day, week, month or year?
  • How many? – how many trips, countries, jobs, hours a day working, blog posts, sign ups, clients, product launches… smart goals
  • When and how will I know when each goal has been accomplished and I can tick it off my list as DONE?
  • What will I consider a success versus a failure?

In what way will you measure your progress at the end of the year, or how will you know when you’ve achieved your objective? Think about what specific criteria you’ll have to fulfill to reach the specific outcome you want. It’s a good idea to team up with a friend or colleague who you trust and create an “accountability” relationship, this helps you push and strive for each goal, with support.

A for ATTAINABLE

Attainable – An achievable goal will usually answer the question HOW?

  • How can I accomplish the goal? How can I become a digital nomad or location independent?
  • Can I make the goal realistic, based on other constraints? What limitations will I come across if I choose to be a digital nomad or location independence?

Set goals that will make you stretch, and learn, and grow. But don’t set unrealistic, far-fetched goals that will only discourage you when you don’t meet them. Work out your priorities and assess how much you are already doing, what can you let go of and what do you need to work on more?

Goals are like magnets, they attract the things that make them come true – Tony Robbins

R for RELEVANT

Relevant – A relevant goal should answer yes to these questions:

  • Is it worthwhile? Will I get a significant (to me) return for my time, energy and money?
  • Is it the right time to be doing this?
  • Does this match my other efforts/needs?
  • Am I the right person to do this or should I hand it over to someone who is able to do it better, faster, cheaper than me?
  • Is it going to support my other projects and ideas in a cohesive way?

I really like the “R” in smart goals, as it really makes me questions the importance of the goal. Any hesitation or uncertainty indicates that no, the goal is not that important and can be let go without hesitation. It’s a great exercise to help you re-assess your bigger and longer term plans and work out if, in fact, they are still your dreams.

T for TIME

Time – A time-bound goal usually answers the questions:

  • When?
  • What needs to be done now?
  • In the next 30 days, what can I do?
  • Within six weeks from now, what can I make possible?
  • What will I have achieved or done 3 months from now?
  • What can I do in the next 6 months from now?

A committed deadline or target date is important to help focus your energies and day to day activities towards your goals. So you need to ask yourself – when do I need to complete this step or this goal? Before the end of the week, the second quarter, the end of the year? Make sure you can be flexible with your deadline, as occasionally life does get in the way and best-laid plans can go awry. Create a calendar or schedule and plot your activities and commitments to ensure that you keep those time targets in check! Be flexible in addition to being realistic with your time frames, because consequently you’ll have a higher chance of success in achieving your smart goals.

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Have you got a clearer idea about smart goals now? Great.

What do you need to do next?

  • Create some time alone where you’re able to concentrate either outside in nature or anywhere you feel calm and centred
  • Organise a book or paper in which to write with pens, pencils, paint, magazines. Whatever you need to create your whole idea or ideas.
  • Be comfortable, wear clothes that won’t irritate you and will keep warm / cool (depending on where you are)
  • Turn off your phone, or at least on silent and in another room
  • Grab some scooby snacks and a drink, make it hard to leave the table or get distracted.
  • Create an ambient atmosphere, ‘L’allegro con spirito’ from the Sonata for Two Pianos in D Major K448 by Mozart can improve your brain function and receptivity to problem solving and creativity
  • Write your goals down, create a draft of ideas or a mind map and see what stands out as important. It’s an interesting exercise to clarify what is really important, what would be nice and what sounds good in your head and sh*t on paper.
  • Break your ideas and potential goals into smaller bite size chunk and apply the smart goal system to them, make them actionable!
  • Create a huge copy of your smart goals for your wall, or a smaller version for your diary and revisit it, regularly. Because looking at and reading your smart goals regularly will help you stay focused due to the fact that you’re constantly reminding yourself of the bigger picture.

Once you have your goals, arrange to have an accountability partner, someone who helps you to achieve these smart goals and holds you accountable! Business gurus such as Leonie Dawson strongly advocate both smart goals and business accountability partners, as combined they help goal achievement.

Smart goals or any kind of goals are great because they can be changed. It’s fantastic to take goals off your list if they no longer apply to what you want to achieve. And rather than be annoyed or frustrated, be happy, this means you’re getting closer to exactly what you want to achieve. So, remember, you CAN adjust your smart goals as your list evolves and you begin to set AND achieve your goals.

Why is all this important? Because in order to achieve anything you need to know what it is you want. While most of us don’t have goals we see repeated success for those who do. Hands up everyone who wishes they were more like the top 1%? Rather than wishing to be in the top 1%, make yourself be a part of that 1% and get proactive, you’re probably doing a lot of what you need to do. Perhaps a few extra actions or tweaks of your time, energy and focus and you’ll be on the express track to your ideal life.

Since goals are easy to lose site and track of here are a few tips:

  • First of all, make them small enough to be achieved, but challenging enough to keep you interested
  • Create a system that keeps track of your progress toward each goal
  • Another key action is to report your progress and sideways (or backward) movement to someone supportive
  • In addition to reporting, celebrate your successes, lessons learned and near misses
  • Finally, and most importantly – have fun!

As much as we all love setting goals, it can be tricky sticking to them. Therefore, if you want some help, here are some resources I use and recommend you consider using.

  1. Leonie Dawson’s Create your Shining Year Workbooks are especially relevant as they take you through a step by step process.
  2. Tim Ferriss’ book, The 4 Hour Work Week is noteworthy as he inspires lateral thinking
  3. In addition to Leonie and Tim, I always find a lot of helpful information and insight on Mindtools

And finally, as Henry Ford says,

Whether you think you can or you can’t. Either way, you’re right.

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